Balancing our Male Female Sexual Energies

From an energy perspective we all have both masculine energy and feminine energy within us whether we are male or female.

Lets take the chinese yin-yang an example.  Yin is the female energy, the receptive, nurturing side of ourselves.  It is our intuitive connection with the divine.  It is yeilding and flowing like water and is why a woman is able to have a multi-orgasmic experience more readily than a man.

Yang energy on the other hand is the stronger forceful side of ourself.  Lets call it the darker side.

Pretend Bisexuality

As we grow up we have to unite with, and balance, both our sexual energies. That is why many men as youngsters have crushes on other boys then grow up to be strong macho men without any gay tendencies. Women have been brought up to be more masculine nowadays and there is a strong tendency and almost encouragement especially from their male partners for them to seek same sex relationships and want to have a bisexual encounter.  I sometimes call it pretend bisexuality.

They are not really bisexual; they just enjoy being sexually pleasured by another woman. I have seen it so many times in observation whereby the woman wants pleasure from another woman, but at the same time is NOT willing to give pleasure to the other.  This is not an equal partnership.

Its a man's nature to want to see his wife or girlfriend with another woman.  It is not always a woman's nature to want to have sex with another woman.  When a woman says she wants to explore her bisexual side which often comes up when she is booking a tantric or sexual healing session.  She needs to ask herself does she want to exchange energy with another women or does she just want to receive sexual energy from another woman?

Unhealthy Narcissism

There are many many bi-sexual men in relationships with partners. They call themselves heterosexual but in secret they are having sexual relationships with other men or couples without the knowledge of their partners.

I have a theory in particular about men. There is a huge increase in Narcissism and NPD especially with 2012 coming up and more lightworkers such as myself seeing "dark souls" lacking in conscience.  Many narcissists have bisexual tendencies. Also a majority of narcissists are men.  I believe that for some bi sexual men especially narcissists, its not just about getting sex from either men or women, its about getting their needs met from ANY source whatsoever, whether it be male or female.  I call this type of bisexuality Narcissist bisexuality or just plain old greediness because they are usually just sex addicts.  They often encourage others to play their narcissist games by encouraging their partners to have bisexual relationships, however they might feel really angry if their own partners were to have sex with another man!

There are even some tantric workers and sex workers who offer bi-sexual experiences who are "feeding" off their own clients from a narcissist energy point of view.  People are going to hate me for writing that one.

Gay or lesbian couples are often far more intuitive and in touch with their own sexual and emotional energies unless of course they are sex addicts too.   You see it all the time where one partner is more feminine or masculine that the other.  And incidentally I am more than happy to offer sessions to gay couples looking to enhance their relationships.

How can I write all this stuff about balancing our male and female sexual energies?  Because I have balanced both own sexual energies.

I am not saying that I have a problem with bi sexuality at all.  Its more about the reasons WHY people are choosing to have bisexual liaisons.

Despite one very unfortunate encounter which really broke me for a very long time, deep down I adore men.   I can honestly say that my feminine energies are so balanced, I could never imagine having a full time relationship with a woman.

With regards to having sex with clients, I am not a narcissist and I do need to get my needs met by having my fix from either men or women.  It is not necessary to have have sex with clients to teach tantra.  Which is one of the reasons why I choose NOT to have sex with any of my clients.  I believe that sex is a spiritual practice;  a union of "one" and that having sex with anyone unless it is spiritually healthy for BOTH parties is very damaging.

I would point out that I do think that many people's energies are completely out of balance as mine where when I was with my own partner.  I have worked through my own shadow side and therefore I would certainly consider discussing your shadow side with you in more detail if the question of bisexual was to come up when making a booking.

I know from my own experiences that sometimes we really need to understand and explore our shadow side to become more full of light.