Honesty

First of all if you are coming for a session whether it be tantra or sex coaching you need to ask yourself whether or not you can be honest with me and more importantly whether you can be honest with yourself. You are never going to heal if you are going to lie to yourself.

I recently had a client who had some impotence problems and I suggested they stemmed from guilt. They came for a coaching session. They had had an affair and when asked if they had seen sex workers their reply was No and yet their wife did not trust them. After a session of timeline therapy they appeared to go away happy. I asked them to call the tell me how they had got on and whether their impotency had been helped. I received a call the following morning. The client had made a “freudian” slip and mixed up my telephone number with the number of the girls in their phone book. They had asked “what girls were available today!”.

If you cannot be honest with yourself, let along me, there is no hope of you ever resolving any emotional issues you have with your partner and your problems will continue.

It is for this reason that occasionally and very rarely I will refuse to do sessions with clients.  If they have read my website they will already know what type of healing they are coming for.  However there is the the odd exception. 

I would like you to read the following and be very clear about your intentions before you decide to make a booking and come and see me.

Tantra appears to be very “trendy” at the moment and its seems that some men out there have no idea what it is including those are supposed to come from countries where it originated from in the first place.  Moreover there are those who are used to seeing massage girls who appear to have jumped on the "tantra" bandwagon.

There are many people offering tantric services that are not tantric at all.  If you are looking for a massage with a handjob at the end of it DO NOT CALL ME.  My tantric taster sessions are all about getting you into a state of tantric bliss.  And my coaching sessions are for those people who really want to get to the bottom of their emotional issues.

Before you decide to make a booking or even call me first I would like you to understand a few things.

If you are looking for session to GET YOUR SEXUAL ROCKS OFF do NOT CALL ME

If you are looking for session so you can find a way to improve your sexual prowess and make yourself a hit with the women DO NOT CALL ME.  If you are going to lie to yourself thats fine but eventually you will catch yourself out.  You are just wasting your own time and mine.

Ideally Tantra is something you share with a loving partner not so you can learn how to just give a good G spot massage and be a hit with the ladies !

If your sole aim is to “ejaculate” at the end of the session DO NOT CALL ME  then you really do NOT understand what a tantric massage is all about.

If you do not understand why I actually enjoy doing a massage even though I am actually not receiving anything back and that it is possible to be in a tantric place no matter who you are giving a massage to then it is your EGO talking.

If you are a narcissist or have some other kind of hidden agenda.  I will spot you within a couple of minutes of chatting to you on the telephone or if not I will spot you when you come and see me. 

I DO NOT DO sessions with narcissists unless they are really sneaky and catch me offguard.

"Why wont you see me ? I don't understand what I have said ?"  I turn clients down every day mostly because they have some kind of hidden agenda. Classic example: Married man calls up and within five minutes I pick up that he is a serious adulterer with no conscience whatsoever.  He is calling up for a tantric massage because its a “new” way of getting his rocks off that he has not tried before instead of seeing the usual sex workers that he sees in between affairs !  What's even more scary is that he even admits that on the telephone.  One of those types actually slipped through the net recently and came for a session and when I asked him him if he had any guilt about the amount of affairs he had had while his wife stayed home “unawares” he just smirked and said  "That's just what I do".  Spiritual people have a conscience.   Narcissists do not.  I have no intention of working with people like that no matter how much they want to pay.

Do not ask me to teach you how to do tantra because you think it will earn you good money or it seems like a good idea!  Tantra is more than just doing a massage; it;s a spiritual practice.

If you are wanting to come and see me about a problem with your relationship with your wife or girlfriend why are you not coming with your partner ?  

I fully understand that sometimes it's not possible to come with a partner but most of the time when I talk to clients they focus all their attention on the problem being with their partners when in fact the problem usually lies with them and their own inability to have intimate relationships.

My sessions are different for everyone. There is an expression: "the universe does not give us what we want but it gives is what we need". My sessions tend to be a bit like that sometimes. Sometimes emotions pop up that you didn't expect. Sometimes you just go away feeling a complete state of bliss.  As I said, each session is different.  But I do all my sessions with an open heart and therefore I expect my clients to come and see me with the same.  Usually when the client has had the time to digest the experience they go away realising they came to see me for a reason. 

I work as an energy worker on a very deep level. If you are open and HONEST you will have a very profound shift during the time you are with me. People have left my sessions having shifted emotions and feelings they have been holding onto since childhood.  I have helped many people heal their relationships with their partners and overcome severe deep emotional scars that have left them, up until now, unable to have proper intimacy with both themselves and their partners.

However I am a realist and know that many clients are just looking for a way of getting their sexual needs met and have no intention of raising their spiritual awareness or becoming more intimate with themselves or others. 

If that is YOU.  DO NOT CONTACT ME.  There are thousands of people who are there to "enable" you.  I am not one of those people. 

Sorry to sound so harsh but If you are NOT honest with me or yourself you will get found out and you will not only be wasting my time and yours but you will go away carrying all the years of baggage you have been carrying for last twenty odd years or more.