The Importance of Touch 

The Importance of touch and foreplay before sexual intercourse

Our bodies comprise of energy. We have such complex dynamic energy systems but in contrast most humans are usually unaware of them for the most part of the time. We tend to work on autopilot. And because of the chemical hormones produced after an orgasm once a person has had their fix they often have no energy after to create more sexual energy.

Why is tantric practice different from regular sex ?

Most of our sexual energy is stored in our sexual Chakras. Both from a Taiost and acupuncture point of view the energy should flow in a fluid way throughout all the of the body's structures, organs and tissues and around our aura.  The sexual energy flows upwards from our sacral Chakra into the head and brain.  If this sexual energy is not used properly we may lack vitality and become weak.  From a masculine point of view men who overuse their sexual energy may end up ageing prematurely and losing their essence.  Women, on the other hand need to cultivate their sexual energy otherwise they may suffer from ill health such as menstrual problems and headaches.

The energy that is created during the menstrual cycle increases just before a woman's period.  If you imagine this energy as a spark, the distance at which it jumps or moves between the two poles becomes stronger, especially during intercourse.

The skin is considered in chinese medicine terms to be our second lung. We breathe through our skin. Itis our external connection to source.  We store a lot of our energetic charge in our skin.  Those with a particularly high sexual energy also have a very high level of sexual charge in their skin.  However if they have sex without foreplay and more importantly touch what happens is that the sexual union becomes very charged up. Their body becomes tense and the sexual energy remains stored after sex resulting in illness and stress related symptoms.

Having "quickie sex" or five minute masturbations, lasting less than half an hour without touch or relaxation is like igniting a fire with fire starters or lighter fluid!  It doesn't produce the initial energetic sparks that are needed to build up the proper sexual charge.

That is why tantra and sexual healing is so beautiful.  I remember my old boyfriend saying at the time how he enjoyed the sensual touch and erotic massage just as much as the orgasm at the end of it.

If we allow our sexual energy to deteriorate either by blocking the flow of energy or qi our overall sense of health and emotional well being will deteriorate.  We may continue to have sexual encounters with others, or the same partner but never feel truly fulfilled.

As a result, we suffer from low energy and strong emotional and hormonal fluctuations which create negative impulses within our body.

In contrast when we use sufficient stimulation through touch and meditation and foreplay, by building up our sexual energy in a loving sensual way, and without discharging it.  We are allowing the energy to flow naturally and we do not create energy blocks.  We produce a higher level of sexual energy that nourishes our bodies and minds. We are able to channel it through our Chakra and energy system.

Become the Best Lover

The result is irreversible rejuvenating effects on our whole energy system, not to mention peace of mind and amazing health benefits.  We also become the best lovers we can be.

Its only those who have really experienced tantra or spiritual sex that can honestly say there is a difference. Itis a bit like the difference between having a Big Mac and a five-course lunch.  With Tantra, you are left feeling full up all the time!!!!  Not only as the receiver but as the giver of tantric practice. 

If we are single and practicing tantra, we do not have to look outside of ourselves to have that "fix".